Seeing each other and dating
It can feel like a big step to start hanging out multiple days in a row, but that's pretty much exactly what a relationship is.Ask your boo to hang twice in one week and see what their response is. Maybe you're both traveling all of the time for work, or even living in separate cities. Texting takes two thumbs and is possible internationally, so you should be getting a steady stream of texts in between rendezvous if this person is into you."I had a couple where the girl came back from a week-long trip and left the following weekend open for the guy she had been dating for the last month, and he waited until the Monday after that to reach [out] to her to see her trip went," says Salkin. Not everyone loves text banter, but if whatever you've got going on is moving towards relationship land, you should both miss each other when you are apart. You are not special."When the guy you are dating has time for his friends on the weekend, his colleagues at happy hour during the week, but when you ask how his week is going he says he's slammed and so busy, it's a definite red flag that the relationship is going nowhere," explains Salkin. If the person you have been dating is constantly saying, "I'm sorry, I can't hang it's been a super busy week," and then 'gramming pictures with his college buddies at happy hour, think twice about his intentions in keeping you around. One can be single and date many people at the same time.
If you "find that he doesn't save weekends for you but only schedules a once a week date on a Tuesday night, he's likely not that committed to the relationship," explains Salkin.
If he's not into it, it will hurt, but you'll get the pain over with now rather than later when you have invested even more time in the half-relationship.
Dating is complicated, and timing is definitely a factor.
It's better to get out now, and maybe hear from him a few months or years down the road if it's meant to be, rather than waste more time texting him when you could be meeting people who are on the same page as you.
Your almost-relationship might feel half-full or it might feel half-empty, but wouldn't you prefer a full one?