Pros and cons of college dating
We become overconfident with the help of dating apps, thinking that we know more about each other before we even meet.
It means we have to work much less for the result, and that can be much less satisfying.
Our grandparents can tell us about all of the stress, anxiety, and uncertainty that came with asking someone out “back in the day.” But there are two different kinds of stress; distress – which can be debilitating and scary – and eustress – which is the kind of excited, nervous, first-day-back-to-school sort of tension.
The latter is the spice that we need when dealing with romantic possibilities; it’s the kind of feeling that we later recall as butterflies and knots in our stomach that make for a great story.
Even after back and forth conversations, it can still be a little unnerving to realize that you’re essentially going on a blind date, and might often come out disappointed.
People can project themselves however they want on the internet, but their true selves might not manifest until later, when you find out their favorite band is Nickelback. For many people, it still feels a little weird to pick someone to spend their time or life with from the Internet. The truth is, it’s never really easy to find the right person.
With apps, the information about the other person is just vaguely given to us so that we can judge a person based on their picture and two to three “biographical” lines they can write about themselves, like how much they bench press.Technology has made it so easy to mindlessly sift through all of the potential partners in a two to 50 mile radius, so it can be addicting and highly unproductive.You might be looking for a special someone, but along the way, you could have totally forgotten what makes someone “special,” and screen time searching can consume your life and your mind.It’s a lot easier to flirt – or even have a simple conversation – with people if you’re not directly with them and you can read their faces as reactions to everything you say. For a lot of people who may not have enough confidence to charm their way into a relationship in person, a virtual test run can be good practice, and can let you test out how good you are at starting and maintaining conversations.Even on a big college campus, as a senior I sometimes feel like there’s no one else left to meet.