When it comes to sin, sometimes we slip up and say “I can’t believe I just did that,” and other times we willingly walk into situations that set us up for failure.
I feel like this frequently happens with believers when it comes to sexual sin. When my husband and I were dating, we had a motto: We intentionally planned activities so that we would not just sit around each other’s houses fighting the temptation to make out.
I often tell women who are dating to focus on the friendship.
Romans says, “Put on the Lord Jesus Christ, and make no provision for the flesh, to gratify its lusts.” I recall reading this passage in my quiet time one day and pausing over the words .
We may desire purity, but we willingly put ourselves in vulnerable situations that entice our flesh and make us weak to the enemy’s lies. Here’s the truth: The physical aspect of a relationship is super easy.
The physical will be there once you say “I do.” What is difficult for most couples is communication, finding activities you both enjoy, and building a friendship that will last a lifetime.
We were really blessed to be on the same art trip with our school to Italy, and one of my favorite memories was sitting together on the bus and taking turns asking questions and getting to know each other as we traveled around the city. Marian: My husband Justin and I also have fun memories of traveling and asking get- to-know-you questions.
I specifically remember asking about his siblings, which I would never have imagined would be my future brothers and sister-in-laws!
So, a friendship began at camp and then we went off our separate ways back home.
That really was such a fun season of life as I fell head-over-heels in love with this boy. Then fast forward over a year and a half, and we’re here!
I had prayed for so long for a man who loved the Lord, and when John Luke came into the picture, I felt such a God-given peace over the situation. Marian: I love that yours and John Luke’s story begins with friendship.