Dating two years no proposal
Enter Abby*, a 31-year-old from Alberta, Canada, and the first woman I’ve met in a romantic situation that resembles mine.
Abby reached out to me after she read my first article and shared with me her own situation: After nearly 15 years with her boyfriend—including a decade living together—the prospect of marriage is still nowhere in sight.
Yet society puts a stigma on those of us who aren’t married, as friends and family just add to the stress with constant inquiries: “What’s wrong with you? ” I am deeply familiar with this line of questioning. If we are in an otherwise happy, fulfilling, and committed relationship, is there still something bad or unhealthy about it?
At least this is what she tells friends and family who have been “breathing down [her] back weekly for the last five years” wondering why she still isn't married.
She tells me it has been several years since she started voicing to her boyfriend how much she would like to get married. And she’ll wait longer if she has to: “As cliche as it is, [I’d wait] forever.
When I expressed my disappointment, he chided me for giving him an ultimatum at all. It didn’t matter that countless times before, he had actually said he wanted us to get married and or that he couldn’t imagine a future without me.
He saw me as an emotional terrorist holding our relationship hostage—and like the U. Nor did he acknowledge the fact that we were quickly approaching our mid-30s, nearing the end of my prime childbearing years. Don't Threaten Me As much as I’d like to play the victim in this situation, it is 100 percent my choice to stay in this relationship.